The ongoing assault on women in this country has been taken to a whole new level since Trump, the ultimate misogynist, the Narcissist-In-Chief, took office. This seems to have unleashed the vitriolic hatred the Republican Party has always harbored towards women, and turned it into a tsunami. As Professor Ford has come forward with her experience of being sexually assaulted by Brett Kavanaugh, the Republican Party has circled the wagons, attempting to smear the reputation of a survivor of a vicious assault, much along the lines of what they did to Professor Anita Hill all those years ago. Let’s take a look at what drives them.
Years ago, there was a wonderful book written by a psychiatrist, Dr Susan Forward, “ Men Who Hate Women, And The Women Who Love Them”. ( By the way, this is a must read for anyone confused about why such a large percentage of white women vote Republican every election. ) It speaks about men with an unhealed mother wound, men who expect women to mother them, and if that need isn’t met, transfer their volcanic rage onto their partner in numerous ways. Women get punished ( verbally, emotionally, or physically) for not being the mommy the man never had. Dr Forward addresses the malignant narcissism of the misogynist, with helpful examples. I believe the Republican Party of today is a Party of malignant narcissists that actively hates women, including the female members of the Party, who have internalized the pervasive cultural message.
I also believe that their assault on the reproductive rights of women, besides being a religious war they are waging, is a subconscious drive to force all women to become mothers. The mothers they always wanted. To them, women have no value other than that. If women are powerful, the misogyny gets ramped up. How dare we expect to be treated as equals? We saw this in living color as Secretary Clinton ran for president.
If we look at the statistics on sexual abuse and domestic violence, the numbers are staggering. What happened to Dr Ford that night at a party when she was 15 is unfortunately the norm, not at all unusual. 3 out of 5 women have been sexually abused. Every single woman I know has been sexually harassed in her lifetime. I don’t know one who hasn’t been. Most women never tell anyone. Why would we? At this moment, over 100,000 rape kits around the country sit on shelves, evidence of rapes never investigated or prosecuted. They are forensic evidence of a crime, where the crime scene was the woman’s body. Not investigated. Can you think of any other types of crimes, burglary, murder, robbery, that go uninvestigated for decades? No? Me, either.
There is a disease of the soul in our culture today, a rot, that needs to be named, rooted out, and healed. It is misogyny coupled with malignant narcissism, where we have a political party in power that has hijacked the rest of the country, creating the same dynamic as an ongoing domestic abuse situation. America has become a battered spouse, with Republicans as the offenders, doing all the things offenders do; gaslighting, lying, making promises they don’t keep, and the country keeps hoping the offenders will change. Here’s a news flash for you: They won’t. They can’t. Their rage is too deeply seated. Our only solution is to divorce them.
I’m urging women everywhere to watch how these men are treating Dr Ford. It’s ugly, it’s sneaky, it’s dishonest. This is who they are. This is how they really feel about all of us. I know it hurts, but it’s true. In November, we can stand with women everywhere. We are strong. We can come together, and refuse to be abused any longer. Vote them out. Take their power away. Say no to abuse. I believe the country has a severe case of PTSD, at this point. Abuse does that. It’s fucking exhausting. Let’s get them out of office and start over, with empathy and kindness for all. This is a travesty. I stand with Dr Ford, and all survivors everywhere. I stand for women. I stand for the voiceless, too frightened to speak about their abuse. I always have, and always will. We will not be silenced. We will not be a party to our own diminishment. Not on my watch. In November, we’re coming for you. You know that saying, Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned? Get ready. We are the storm. The thunder. The lightning. Republicans have scorned us for decades. This is their Karma. Expect us. This is our moment of emancipation. It’s going to be a thing of beauty. Blessings, Rev Judith Star-Medicine