What? A Woman’s Response To Mansplaining Misogyny

On top of all of the sexual abuse revelations coming out now, we also have high profile men “ mansplaining”  to women the importance of nuance in talking about our experiences of harassment, discrimination, and sexual assault. Right. Matt Damon recently shared his thoughts on this, explaining that there are different levels of abuse, some more serious than others, and that they should not be “ conflated”, and was immediately taken to task by a fellow actor. The absolute hubris of a man explaining our experience of misogyny to women stunned me. Different levels of abuse? No man has any idea what it’s like to incarnate into a female body, and begin experiencing abuse almost immediately, in some cases. Every woman I know, EVERY WOMAN, has experienced some level of misogyny directed at her in her lifetime. All sexual abuse, harassment, and discrimination has its roots in misogyny. All of it is horrible. All of it is coming from a cultural sickness that is centuries old.

What’s next for these guys, do they use their platform of white privilege to explain the importance of nuance when we discuss racism? That discrimination, voter suppression, dehumanizing, demeaning, name calling, isn’t as bad as lynching or police brutality? What the fuck is wrong with these people? How narcissistic do you have to be, to feel entitled to hold forth on topics that you have no idea about, and have never directly experienced? There is no “ nuance”. It’s all sick.

So, I say again, what? Seriously. To any man out there attempting to minimize the impact of a lifetime of misogyny upon all of us, a word of advice. Stop. As in, don’t even. We have had it. We’re done with this shit, and we will hand you your ass if you keep this up. Here’s the only thing we want to hear from anyone with external plumbing. “We feel your pain, and we will stand with you. We’re sorry that some men are predators. We believe you, and will do everything we can to help you change this world.” That’s it.

Here is one final thought for the assholes who still believe they have the right to talk about abuse to women: In case you were wondering. Blessings, Reverend Judith Star-Medicine

Spirit Walker

There are a number of different kinds of healing modalities. There is the Western psychotherapeutic model, ( talk therapy), somatic release models, energy healing, etc. They all are effective, up to a point. Where they stop short, is in dealing with trauma seated deeply within, that has attached itself to the soul. ( Not the Spirit, the divinity of an individual. Nothing touches that). The Western model is designed to address the Ego construct, the identity of an individual, and that is not what we are. The Ego construct is the most superficial, outermost layer of our consciousness, whose job is to create the illusion of separation from All That Is. This illusion is what we seek to dispel through meditation, and spiritual cultivation.

As a Mystic, as an Empath, as a “ Walker Between  the Worlds”, my approach to healing is entirely different than any of those modalities. From childhood, I’ve had the ability to move fluidly from one realm to another. It’s as effortless as breathing for me. This becomes important in my work as a clinician, where I don’t need a client to describe what they are feeling, as they are processing something. I can feel it. Not only can I feel it, I can step directly into their internal landscape, and join them in their experience. I am stepping into an alternate reality from my own. In that moment, I am offering them a kind of support that is real, because they can actually feel me inside of them, energetically speaking. It’s not intrusive, because they have invited me in. There is no boundary violation, nor is there an energy exchange of any kind. There are just two souls communicating on a profound level, one bearing witness to the other, from a place of shared experience. I am sharing the emotional experience of the moment, because I have stepped through Space and Time to reach the soul of the person sitting with me. “Believing “ what the person is sharing, remembering, or reliving is not relevant, because I’m DIRECTLY EXPERIENCING it with them. It’s beyond the concept of “ belief”. I’m living it with them. In that moment, they are not alone. They feel seen, they feel heard, on a soul level. All healing starts there.

In Classical Chinese Medicine, the Hun, the Ethereal Soul, is held in the Liver. It is Yang in nature, ascending, and is connected to the Astral Plane. It records our life experiences. Restoring the balance of the Ethereal Soul is a part of my path as a Walker. It isn’t my empathy for others that makes me a Walker. Rather, it’s the compassion that pulls me into someone’s inner world. Growing up with a mother with severe mental illness definitely strengthened my inherent abilities in this direction. I was always psychic, yes, but her fears during her psychotic episodes deeply moved me, calling to the compassionate part of my nature. Tracking her in the Void, calming her, and using my voice to comfort her, and bring her back, became second nature to me.

For someone to do this, they have to be anchored to something inside of the self that is bedrock. This is not the Ego, which is subject to change. There has to be an unshakable link to the core of oneself, the essence of oneself, that allows this kind of fluidity, a radical knowledge of oneself. It’s a kind of cosmic perception of the nature of reality that transcends the Ego construct, and connects directly to the Void, held in the Kidneys. This is a result of spiritual cultivation, and infinite compassion. It’s a living bridge within the self of the Kidney Qi and Liver Qi, the Essence and the Ethereal Soul, with the Heart as the guiding principle.

In my work, compassion, empathy, and my link to the supernatural inform everything I do, every choice I make. I love my work, and feel deeply honored to be invited into someone’s journey. Being a Spirit Walker is not a teachable thing, in my opinion. You are born this way or you are not. You won’t see me teaching “ workshops “ on being a Walker, anymore than you would see me teaching a workshop on being a Shaman. The idea is ludicrous.

Given the volume of accusations coming out now, by women who have been sexually harassed, assaulted, raped, I want to say to all those coming forward: I believe you. Bless you all for your courage, knowing you will be attacked, and coming forward anyway. Breaking the cycle of shame, secrets, and silence is essential now, more than ever. And to those who defend predators, we see you. We know who you are, and why it’s in your best interest to discredit those who come forward. News flash for you: it won’t work. Everything is being revealed now. I stand with women everywhere, and have spent my entire incarnation devoted to healing this population. I send my prayers and my love to all of you. I am so proud of you. #IBelieveYou. Blessings, Judith

The Monthly Forecast For December


December will be both a powerful and an eventful month. It starts out with a bang, with the Full Moon on 12/3, which will form a T-Cross with Neptune in Pisces, squaring the Sun in Sagittarius and the Moon in Gemini. We can expect a time of confusion, illusion, denial, fancy dancing and spin doctoring galore, since Neptune rules all of those things. The news should be even more entertaining, with additional lies revealed. Grab your popcorn. On the same day, Mercury goes Retrograde, the last time this year. Perfect.

The 4th and 5th have the Moon in nurturing Cancer, forming some lovely aspects, creating hope and optimism. 12/8 is fabulous, with a Grand Trine in Fire, with the Sun in Sagittarius, the Moon in Leo, Mercury in Sagittarius, and Uranus in Aries. Wow. Fire inspires, it cleanses and purifies, it is the Element of alchemy. This is a wonderful day for intention work, a Phoenix day. Rise up, and be the light of the world. I love that Rumi quote, reminding us that in order to be a candle, a lighthouse, or a Phoenix, one must have the courage to burn.

The Moon goes into Scorpio on the 13th, Hanukkah, making some nice aspects, along with the Geminids meteor showers. The 14th is also good. The New Moon in Sagittarius on the 18th is beautiful. It conjuncts to Saturn , adding wisdom and patience to the intense fire of Sagittarius.

The Winter Solstice on 12/21, as the Sun enters Capricorn, heralds the beginning of winter. I’ve always found it to be enormously powerful and spiritual, a link to the mystical and supernatural. Light some candles, some incense, sage, or essential oils for an inner journey.

Mercury goes direct on 12/22, with the Ursids meteor showers punctuating that. 12/23 and 12/24 are beautiful, with the Moon in mystical Pisces connecting to Venus, generating a feeling of peace and love, perfect to usher in Christmas.

The 28th is spectacular, with the Moon in Taurus positively aspecting a number of planets, closing out the month on a high vibrational note.

Sagittarius is the sign of the archer, the centaur, the philosopher. The keywords are “ I Perceive “. It is ruled by Jupiter, the planet of faith, hope, and Sacred Law. May this month bring all of those things, and more, along with a much needed healing to the world which sorely needs it. Sending you all of the bright blessings, light, and prayers for a happy Hanukkah, lovely Solstice, and very merry Christmas, wherever you are. Peace, Judith