The Holidays can be a wonderful time. They can also be enormously stressful. Trying to get everything done, lists on top of lists… People rushing around.. For some reason, the Holidays can bring out the best in some people and the worst in others. If you are in any kind of retail business you can testify to this.
During this time, any unhealed family of origin issues may be triggered. Being around family during the Holidays can be either lovely, or feel like torture, depending. Try to avoid hot-button topics like politics or religion if at all possible. If we have expectations of a Norman Rockwell painting kind of Christmas, we may be disappointed. I try to create my own magic, transforming my home into a sparkly sanctuary, with twinkle lights and candles, and decorations that express my Spiritual path. For instance, I always have an artificial Tree, because in Shamanism we respect all living things, and it would never occur to me to drag the dead body of one of the Standing People into my home and hang ornaments on the corpse. Macabre, to say the least. But I do enjoy the representation of the Standing People, and I use Totem Animal ornaments. Butterfly is one of mine, so my tree is covered with glittering, sparkling Butterflies. I also love feathers, so I use real and artificial Peacock Feathers. And finally, Stars. I use Star Garland, both purple and gold, clouds of sparkling Stars, both on the Tree, and all around the house, wrapped around the Crystals, bookcases, bakers racks, everywhere, with twinkle lights flashing. This way, no matter where I look, I see magic. No matter how people choose to behave in the world outside my doors, inside, I am reminded that it’s a magical Universe of my own creation, and none of anyone else’s drama can touch me if I don’t allow it to. And I don’t.
So make your own magic, it doesn’t take much money, candles and ribbons and glitter, but most of all, LOVE. Be kind to yourself. Play music you love, light some candles, some Sage or Frankincense, have some tea, and celebrate all that you are, a child of the Stars, enjoying this temporary human experience. I send you all Love, Light, and Laughter.
Blessings, Judith Star-Medicine