A Warrior In A Garden

I love this quote from Bruce Lee, saying “ It’s better to be a warrior in a garden, than a gardener in a war.” I believe we need to cultivate the garden of our life. Every time we express kindness, compassion, empathy, and love, we plant a flower in the garden of our own life, and someone else’s. Whether that flower is an annual, only around for a season, or a perennial, blooming year after year, it still brings joy to anyone who sees it.

The thing about gardens, as anyone who has ever had one knows, is that they need to be nurtured and protected. They need the proper amounts of water, sunlight, and nutrients, as well as being protected from insects and animals that want to devour the plants, flowers, or vegetables. Our inner garden deserves the same care. There will always be those that have no boundaries, feeling entitled to harvest the fruits of our labors. Unwilling to do the work themselves, they can be parasites in our lives, piggybacking on the spiritual work we’ve done.

Being a spiritual warrior means that we hold others to the same standards we have for ourselves. No excuses. We choose to live from impeccability, and a ruthless examination of our subconscious motivations. We refuse to allow the mind or ego construct to run the show. That takes a level of commitment and vigilance that is ongoing. We weed our garden constantly, removing negative thoughts, beliefs, and toxic relationships that no longer grow beauty in our soul. Sometimes, the culture tries to make us feel guilty about that weeding process. Don’t. Protect what you have planted, understanding that anyone can plant a garden, the same way that you did. Only you have the right to harvest the fruits of your spiritual work. Overgiving teaches nothing, other than reinforcing a person’s entitlement issues and a negative belief that they may hold about themselves, regarding their own capabilities.

Love is the sunlight that washes over us, greening and growing who we are, and strengthening who we came here to be. Faith and trust are the waters that replenish us. Empathy is the soil that nourishes us. Compassion is what gives us the courage to move forward. The gentle breezes oxygenate our spirit, and invigorate us. We need to treat our garden within as the sacred place that it is. Those that would pollute it, intentionally or unintentionally, must not be allowed access. Having strong and healthy boundaries is the equivalent of posting “ No trespassing “ signs.

We can, by being a warrior in a garden, model for the world what a beautiful garden of love looks like, while at the same time encouraging others to grow their own gardens. Gardens of love, creativity, joy, and abundance. Anyone can become a gardener. Love is the easiest thing in the world to plant. A person just has to want to. The magical thing about love, is that once it’s planted, it spreads. It’s a perennial, rewarding you with blossoms for decades to come.

Being a warrior in a garden is a beautiful thing. The flower that most embodies that, for me, is the rose. It is a perennial, it has the most exquisite fragrance, it draws bees and hummingbirds to itself, sharing it’s nectar, while at the same time having thorns to ward off predators that would eat it. The rose is a heart healer. Rose essential oil is so uplifting, calming, and soothing. Diffused, or applied topically on pericardium points or heart points can be very powerful during trying circumstances.

I choose to be a warrior in the garden of my life. It is my responsibility, and the sacred commitment I have made to myself, since walking away from an abusive marriage over 30 years ago, where I learned about pathological narcissism first hand. I learned about protecting and honoring my garden. I learned about reciprocity. I learned to expect to receive. I learned to be a warrior of light. Become that. Honor your garden. Honor what you have planted. Honor who you have become. Blessings, Judith

Monthly Forecast For March

The Sun is in Pisces for much of the month. Pisces is a Water sign of the zodiac. The Water signs tend to be empathic, compassionate, and caring. (Some people say that Pisces are dreamy and unfocused, but I have never found that to be the case.) In Chinese medicine, the kidneys and the bladder are the Water element. It represents what we trust, what we have faith in. Also, the kidneys are the home of the mystical, the supernatural, and the Void.

This month begins with Mercury going retrograde on 3/5. It lasts for three weeks, going direct again on 3/28. I know, it’s appointment book hell. Not great for travel, but if you have to, check and double check your schedule. Be clear in all communications, and write things down.

There is a gorgeous New Moon on 3/6, with the Sun and Moon in Pisces, BOTH conjunct to Neptune. Wow. This is incredibly high vibe. Take advantage of the cosmic energy this generates. Meditate, set your intention to be love, to broadcast love, to receive love. It’s a vibration of grace, gratitude, and beauty. The Moon also sextiles Mars and Saturn, energy and patience. I believe this may be one of the most uplifting days of the month.

Daylight Savings Time begins on 3/10. The Moon conjuncts to Uranus in Taurus, very freeing and packing a lot of juice. Change a pattern, move forward. 3/11 is another seriously good day. We have several good aspects, but the ones I like the most are the Moon in Taurus trining Pluto and Saturn in Capricorn. Pluto is the alchemist, and Saturn is wisdom and patience. This is an aspect of high magic, anything can be accomplished with this. Connect to Source, channel it through yourself. Become the magic, and watch old obstacles fade away. Or blow them the fuck up, whichever works for you. I’m more of a blow them the fuck up type of chick, myself.

3/13 is interesting. The Moon in Gemini squares Neptune in Pisces. Neptune in a square aspect signifies denial, or naïveté. The Sun in Pisces squares Jupiter in Sagittarius at the same time, an aspect of overextending. Don’t let your compassion and generosity of spirit cause you to be taken advantage of, or to push yourself too hard. The Sun sextile to Pluto helps, here, giving penetrating insights. Trust what you’re shown.

I’m going out on a limb here, but 3/14, 3/15 and 3/16 look important, in terms of breaking news regarding ongoing investigations in our country. Some people are going to be getting some bad news. And should plan on going away for a while. I hope they like orange.

The Vernal Equinox And Full Moon is on 3/20, with the Sun entering Aries. There are several very powerful aspects that day, among them, the Moon trining Saturn, Pluto, and Mars. Yowza. It’s time to rock and roll. This is another opportunity to jumpstart your life. Body surf this planetary configuration. Focus. Wait… pounce.

On 3/22, don’t let fear stop you. Just as the Moon is leaving Libra, early in the day, it makes a square to both Pluto and Saturn. This can trigger old fears. Ignore them. The Moon shifts into Scorpio later on, making two positive aspects to Jupiter and Venus. Trust yourself and Spirit. 3/24 is also very nice.

Mercury goes direct on 3/28, making the end of the month, 3/27, 3/28, and 3/29, all predominantly positive.

This month, be especially gentle with yourself. Be patient. Be kind. Be tender hearted. Pisces may be the most compassionate signs of the zodiac. Give some of that compassion  to yourself this month. You deserve it, and it’s your birthright. Let the universe nurture you. Receive all the blessings coming your way. Sending you love, Judith


Hunter, Healer

Art by Kinuko Y. Craft

It’s important in life to keep updating how you see yourself. I’ve been many things in my life, and all of them have been accurate at a given time. I’m an incest survivor, and a survivor of domestic violence. As a child, I was prey. I was hunted by my offender. No place was safe. I was raped and tortured for years. Yet, somehow, I always remained connected to Source. I was prey in my marriage. After years of emotional and physical abuse, I walked away from my marriage and started my life over. I’m living proof that anything is possible, with enough fierceness, faith, and determination.

Sometimes I watch the news, and see some people holding forth with their opinions on women, the #MeToo movement, on domestic violence, or sexual abuse. And I’m astounded by their arrogance, and their hubris. I wonder, as I’m watching these pundits, how many of these men have taken a fist to the face? Been choked until they lost consciousness? Been spit on, dragged by the hair, been threatened with death? How many of them have known terror, from the earliest age, and have not only survived, but worked to become an advocate, a defender of the innocent? So, what do they know about courage?

For all of us who have survived the unspeakable, and have chosen to live from compassion and empathy, watching people who have no fucking idea about courage offer their opinions is an exercise in patience. So here’s what I know. I have been prey. I will never be prey again. I’m a Phoenix, risen out of the ashes. I’m a Dragon. I’m a hunter of the darkness that assaults the innocent. I am fearless, because I have survived. I’m a healer. I’m a guardian. I’m a teacher. I’m a mystic. I’m a badass bitch that suffers no fools.

I share my story, so that others beginning their journey of healing see that anything is possible. Believe in yourself. You have the light within you. You are not prey. You are the thunder, the lightning, the wind. Redefine yourself as the person that you are today: strong, free, and unafraid. Many of us have done this, and you can, too. Be patient with yourself. Give yourself the kindness and love that you didn’t get when you needed it the most. Become the badass that you have within you. Trust me, it’s in there. This is your moment. Seize it, and start over. I am with you, the Hunter. The Healer. We are one heart. Blessings, Judith