The past week has brought us a trifecta of taboo topics in the news.Sexual abuse. Domestic violence. Death from addiction. These three topics rank up at the top of the list of things most people never want to talk about or look at. Unfortunately, literally millions of lives are affected by them. My February Teaching of the Month was about domestic violence. It was inspired by the lyrics of a song performed at the Grammy awards directly referencing Tina Turners horrific abuse at the hands of her husband Ike Turner. I will not put those disrespectful lyrics anywhere, I have too much respect for any survivor of domestic violence to do that. Over 1.3 million women A YEAR are victims of domestic violence. How is this still possible?
Alcoholism and addiction continues to claim the lives of so many. The death of Philip Seymour Hoffman was a great tragedy. Many people still see addiction as a choice, rather than the terrible disease that it is. With over 23 years of sobriety, this wonderful man still relapsed, and died of a heroin overdose. It’s time to understand what it means for someone who has a disease to be viewed as less than human because they are powerless over their use of a substance, and their lives have become unmanageable. The founding principle of A.A.
And then we have the third topic in our taboo trifecta: sexual abuse. This week, Dylan Farrow came forward in an open letter published in the NY Times stating that Woody Allen molested her when she was 7 years old. The public firestorm resulting from this has been fascinating. The desire that many people have to somehow blame or attack the victim of sexual abuse is exactly why so many survivors of sexual abuse remain silent. I have worked with many survivors of sexual abuse, both men and women. Mostly adults, but a few children, also. Let me let you in on something. Not one of the offenders admitted it. Not even when they were caught. Not one. Let me repeat that, so we’re clear. Not. One. I always believe a client relating their experience of sexual abuse. The shock, the trauma, the shame radiates out of their energy body. My job, as a Shaman, is to first stabilize the person, re-establish their core structural integrity, and then remind them of a Spiritual truth: That no matter what a predator does to our bodies, they cannot touch our Soul. Our Light and beauty can never be diminished. Not by anyone. I believe Dylan Farrow, for many reasons. And, of course, I am a Psychic. Seeing the truth in a person is easy for me. As is spotting an offender.
This is a time of great opportunity for humanity. A time to come together and look at these uncomfortable issues that still plague us, along with racism, and homophobia, and religious extremism. Only by having the courage to face the pain and suffering of others, can we create a better world. The Totem Animal I call upon for this work is the Owl. Owl sees through darkness. Through deception of all kinds. Whether that be our own self-deceptions, or the calculated lies and deceptions of others, Owl Medicine sees the truth. Reveals the truth. And as a great Master Teacher once said, the truth shall set us free. On our own personal journeys, let us embrace those around us that are struggling to heal from domestic violence, addictions, alcoholism, and sexual abuse. Not in a codependent way, but by being willing to look at them. My prayer for them is that they no longer live in the shadows, invisible. Ashamed. Judged. May we live, with the courage that it takes, with empathy. Compassion. Denial serves no one. I will always stand for them. And for the Truth. Blessings, Judith Star-Medicine